Tuesday, April 24, 2012

I'm Not Good At Being Married

Tonight's lesson was about the partners we pick. Codependent people may realize they need to get out of a relationship, and may actually do it. Then, there is an excellent chance they will pick the same person all over again.

A person very close to me has been in not one, not two, but three relationships with alcoholic men. And believe me when I tell you, number one and number two were bad. REALLY bad. You would think the instinct would be to stay away from anyone who may even remotely seem chemically dependent, but that's not what we do. "Normal" people seem uninteresting, even boring to us. They don't need to be fixed. We don't need to change them. There's no challenge in that. So we pick the same person over and over again, and convince ourselves it's US that has a hard time having a successful relationship. I can't tell you how many times I've said "I'm no good at being married". In reality, I'm no good at being married to men with addictions.

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