Sunday, January 30, 2011

It's Never Enough

I believe we are becoming a society that is increasingly disappointed and unfullfilled. And I believe that these feelings are self inflicted. It seems that we expect more and more for ourselves as well as from others, then when we don't get what we expect we are disappointed, even angry.

I've had a theory about this for a long time now. I call it "The Script". Often we have it written in our minds. It's a beautiful script. It's what we envision everyone around us, including ourselves, to say and do in a particular situation. There is one catch one has a copy of the script but us. Therefore, when others don't know their lines, we become very frustrated.

Some of us have very high expectations. And as time goes by, we want more and more from people, particularly people on whom we are codependent. And when these people don't live up to our high expectations, we become hurt and even angry with them for not knowing their lines!

It's sad really. We can't be happy with what we acheive, or what we are given, because in our complicated minds, we always expect more. It's hard to let go of those high expectations, but if we can find a way to do that, we will find ourselves satisfied with ourselves, and content with what we receive from others.

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