I posted this photo of her on Facebook, and got some really wonderful responses. My mother loved music, and I thought it was so wonderful that my friend Scarlett noted that my mother was one of the first people to encourage her with her music. My mom loved singing on the porch while her brothers played guitar, banjo, and mandolins. Music made her happy and singing was in her blood. To know that she may have played some role in encouraging Scarlett to continue playing guitar would have made her so happy!
But perhaps my favorite comment was from my cousin Tammy. Tammy is a few years younger than me, and grew up way back in the hills of Kentucky. Her mother (my mom’s sister) was very conservative and plain, and wore dresses, no makeup, and pulled her hair back in a bun. Pretty much the complete and total opposite of my mother.
Tammy is a beautiful woman now and a new grandmother. So yesterday, when she saw this photo, and my post about my mom she commented “She was such a beautiful lady. When I was a little girl, I thought that she was a movie star that would come to visit a few times every year”.
I cannot stress enough how much my mother would have absolutely LOVED that comment.
I miss you mom!
A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
The following two "Detach" journal entries will give you a crash course:
"An Answer to a Prayer" dated Nov 1, 2008 "How Did We Wind Up Here?" dated Nov 2, 2008
About This Journal
In 2008 I had the life changing realization that there was a name for what I'd always felt was "wrong" with me. After 20 years of thumbing through various self-help books. I learned about codependence.
I began writing this journal to document my journey out. Over time, it's evolved into something more. While I still talk about codependence (I know now, it will never totally leave me), this blog has turned into the thumbprint of my life; a therapeutic journal for me to sort out a lifetime of thoughts and memories. I believe in being honest with myself and others, and when something is bothering me, I reach out. With a support team of strong, smart women surrounding us, we can all continue to grow. I'm trying to live my best life, in pursuit of a Healthy Mind, a Healthy Body.